Spirit Breakfast 🍞☕ 13/6/2019
Theme: Coping with Aging Identity (Subjective Aging) (Part 8)
Anchor Text: Psalms 90:12 New Living Translation
Teach us to realize the brevity of life, so that we may grow in wisdom.
Concluding my story...
There I was in the seminary when I got a call from mum. She went ahead to inform me that my dad had passed on. She asked me to be strong for them. Them meant herself and my sisters since I was the only son of my father.
So I stayed strong for them. Didn't have the luxury to be otherwise. So I shed no tear whatsoever not because I didn't miss dad or it didn't pain so badly but I couldn't afford to breakdown.
Instead I spent most of my time thinking, planning and talking to God. Dad left huge shoes to fill and I had to step up and fill them. This was my Role-Transition into becoming the "daddy" of the family. Like I got to find out later; my money was no longer my money but "our money".
At first I thought it's no big deal after I mapped out plans but those plans didn't work as expected especially after the burial. The responsibilities kept piling up and I had my first and only breakdown about a year later where I had to cry since the event.
Many young people have faced this and are facing this same issue of not just losing a parent but that of role transitioning. Trust me it's more difficult when you have to take up a role you weren't ready for. It makes one become so focused on the responsibilities one has to take care of and can easily end up neglecting to take care of oneself. This can be disastrous.
The person is alive but is merely just observing routines and sees no joy in life because he/she is practically investing all of himself/herself into the family. In most cases they end up being worst off than other siblings. We've seen where the elder sibling didn't attend tertiary institution at the end of the day while all the other siblings are graduates because he/she was busy ensuring they attended school. This sometimes also causes resentment eventually especially when the younger ones fail to be responsible back to the elder sibling who has laboured over the years for them.
Why have I gone through all these troubles to share my story? It's because I've been there and I learnt how to cope and deal with this issue of subjective aging with the help of the Lord. That's what I'll begin sharing tomorrow.
I really pray that someone will find and discover healing once more after this series in Jesus name.
It may not be for everyone but as many who have been going through this without even knowing what it is, this by the mercies of the Lord will spark an unusual transformation in your life. You will look back upon your life few months from now and be surprised at the level of positive change you have experienced in Jesus name.
I pour my heart and pray for that lady that feels like age is catching up to you; you won't lose your favour. Your appointed time is by the corner.
For the young man who has gone through so many adversities of life that has wearied your soul, I decree strength. There is more ahead of you than you realise. God is ochestrating unusual breakthrough for your sake. Don't give up.
Stay Graced...
#SpiritBreakfast™️
#TriumphantThursday™️
#PastorMuve™️
#GODsSpecialSon™️
#Expansion
#Strength
If this post has blessed you feel free to drop a comment below, I'll love to hear from you.
Anchor Text: Psalms 90:12 New Living Translation
Teach us to realize the brevity of life, so that we may grow in wisdom.
Concluding my story...
There I was in the seminary when I got a call from mum. She went ahead to inform me that my dad had passed on. She asked me to be strong for them. Them meant herself and my sisters since I was the only son of my father.
So I stayed strong for them. Didn't have the luxury to be otherwise. So I shed no tear whatsoever not because I didn't miss dad or it didn't pain so badly but I couldn't afford to breakdown.
Instead I spent most of my time thinking, planning and talking to God. Dad left huge shoes to fill and I had to step up and fill them. This was my Role-Transition into becoming the "daddy" of the family. Like I got to find out later; my money was no longer my money but "our money".
At first I thought it's no big deal after I mapped out plans but those plans didn't work as expected especially after the burial. The responsibilities kept piling up and I had my first and only breakdown about a year later where I had to cry since the event.
Many young people have faced this and are facing this same issue of not just losing a parent but that of role transitioning. Trust me it's more difficult when you have to take up a role you weren't ready for. It makes one become so focused on the responsibilities one has to take care of and can easily end up neglecting to take care of oneself. This can be disastrous.
The person is alive but is merely just observing routines and sees no joy in life because he/she is practically investing all of himself/herself into the family. In most cases they end up being worst off than other siblings. We've seen where the elder sibling didn't attend tertiary institution at the end of the day while all the other siblings are graduates because he/she was busy ensuring they attended school. This sometimes also causes resentment eventually especially when the younger ones fail to be responsible back to the elder sibling who has laboured over the years for them.
Why have I gone through all these troubles to share my story? It's because I've been there and I learnt how to cope and deal with this issue of subjective aging with the help of the Lord. That's what I'll begin sharing tomorrow.
I really pray that someone will find and discover healing once more after this series in Jesus name.
It may not be for everyone but as many who have been going through this without even knowing what it is, this by the mercies of the Lord will spark an unusual transformation in your life. You will look back upon your life few months from now and be surprised at the level of positive change you have experienced in Jesus name.
I pour my heart and pray for that lady that feels like age is catching up to you; you won't lose your favour. Your appointed time is by the corner.
For the young man who has gone through so many adversities of life that has wearied your soul, I decree strength. There is more ahead of you than you realise. God is ochestrating unusual breakthrough for your sake. Don't give up.
Stay Graced...
#SpiritBreakfast™️
#TriumphantThursday™️
#PastorMuve™️
#GODsSpecialSon™️
#Expansion
#Strength
If this post has blessed you feel free to drop a comment below, I'll love to hear from you.
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